Did you spend the end of 2018 reevaluating, reassessing, and setting goals and visions for the next year? Were you asked at some point in December what your “resolutions” are for the next year?
If you’re anything like me the answer is yes.
On January 1st, 2019, I was going to transform into a self-motivated and self-disciplined superwoman who would (in 2019) master my finances, health, diet, and mental health!
Well here we are in the middle of February and I have yet to make any major breakthroughs in any of these categories.
However, I have made baby steps towards progress and slightly improved my self-awareness in some of these areas.
This year, instead of allowing disappointment to set it, I’ve decided to practice self-compassion and pat myself on the back for my progress, no matter how small it may seem! I am not where I want to be, but I am not where I used to be.
Are you feeling pressure or anxiety from the goals and expectations you set on yourself?
Are your goals and expectations for yourself affecting your mental health in any way?
If so, take a second to reevaluate and reassess the goals and expectation you set for yourself.
Are they realistic?
Why is this goal important to you?
How can I allow myself grace if I don’t meet it as fast as I envisioned?
Is my self-worth or value tied to any of these goals?
Do I need to break my goals down into quarters, months, weeks, or even days?
Take some time now to think about all the things you have accomplished so far this year, big or small. What happened in January that you are grateful for? Now, pat yourself on the back. You deserve the patience, grace, and mercy you offer to your loved ones.
Are you struggling with feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness that are tied to accomplishment and achievement? Are these feelings affecting your outlook on life, relationship with yourself, and overall mental health? If so, please reach out to us at 615-591-5262.
Written by Refuge Center Masters Level Intern Brandy Walker