New Blog Post: When Life Intervenes


by Refuge intern, Angela Davenport

There is freedom waiting for you on the breezes of the sky, and you ask What if I fall? Oh but my darling, what if you fly?” -Erin Hanson


There are moments in our lives when we seem to lose sight of who we are. As if the world has turned upside down. We forget what our purpose is, we forget our greatest joys, we submit to depression, anxiety, grief, and worry; we’ve lost ourselves in our own whirlwind.

upside downElizabeth Lesser coins this as when life intervenes. Something tragic happens in the midst of our carefully planned, acceptable, contented life bringing everything to a screeching halt and bringing walls crumbling around us. Life has intervened with the loss of a loved one, infidelity in our marriage, a diagnosis of an incurable disease, the birth of what we believed was going to be the “perfect” baby became the tragic birth that left our baby with brain damage, or maybe it is the admittance that we are living a life untrue to ourselves, a life that we don’t know how it became what it is we only know that we are ready to change.

You find yourself defeating yourself with your own talk, lack of motivation, and fear of the unknown. You are not alone. We have all been there. We can all overcome, spread our wings and fly into the freedom we desire, if we only allow ourselves. Lesser refers to this as here come the terrors, here come the miracles. The miracles being what changed our terrors to being a miracle in helping us grow as humans. The miracle comes after the rage, the let down, and the sadness. The miracle following the terror is what gives us strength to carry on with our lives, grow from the terrors, implement new views of the world, and allowing our terrors to be our teacher not our enslaver.

Counselors here at the Refuge Center for Counseling are here and ready to help you find your footing, work through the whirlwinds of life, spread your wings and fly into the life that you want. Visit us at or call us at 615.591.5262.

References made from Elizabeth Lesser’s book Broken Open: How Difficult Times Help us Grow.

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