We all have things about our pasts that we don’t like. Mistakes we feel we’ve made, bad relationships, lost jobs, etc. It’s easy to live in regret and to continue to look at those situations negatively, causing unhappiness. But they have taught us a great lesson and have brought us to where we are today. The challenge is to learn the lesson and move forward. This is also where the healing is.
We all make mistakes. Is it frustrating? Yes. Is it sometimes discouraging? Yes. Is it necessary for growth? Absolutely. Give yourself some GRACE and look back at how far you’ve come. It’s all part of our growth and progress. Experience is a great teacher. Perhaps you have emerged from a relationship having a better idea of who you are or what you want. That is a great lessoned learned, progress made.
Your past is not a mistake. You are not a mistake. “The only mistake we can make is mistaking that for the truth.”
Beattie, M. (1990). The Language of Letting Go. Hazelden Foundation