Co-parenting after a divorce can be difficult for many families, but it can work with dedication and patience from both parents. Cooperative parenting with your ex can give your children continued stability and close relationships. Despite the many challenges, though, it is possible to initiate and maintain a cordial working relationship with your ex for the sake of your children. You have the power to remain calm, stay consistent, and avoid or effectively resolve conflict with your ex—all in the name of putting your children’s needs first. When parents choose to co-parent, children are able to feel secure, they benefit from consistency, better understand problem solving and have a healthy example to follow. Here are a few tips that have proven to be beneficial when co-parenting after a divorce or separation.
– Separating feelings from behavior
– Never use your kids as messengers
– Stay kid focused
– Commit to talking/meeting consistently
– Show restraint
– Aim for consistency
– Make important decisions about children together
A great resource is a book by the Founder of Co-Parenting International, Tammy Daughtry called Co-Parenting Works!
If you or your family are struggling after a divorce or separation, call The Refuge Center for Counseling to speak with someone today at 615.771.1155.