Emotionally Focused Therapy for Infidelity

July 11, 2017

Researchers have noted that in cases of infidelity, partners frequently use the language of trauma when describing their experience, communicating in life or death terms. Sexual betrayal in marriage is extremely destructive to the relationship. Not only does it create unimaginable pain for the betrayed spouse, but it also tears at the very bond that […]

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Brainspotting

June 28, 2017

“So, you want me to just keep looking at the stick and see what comes up?” That is the question I usually get in my first brainspotting session with clients. It’s an understandable question. It seems too simple- looking at the end of a pointer will help resolve years of trauma or negative feeling? My […]

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Cracks in our Surfaces

June 22, 2017

I write this with Father’s Day on my heart last weekend, and the realization that for some this is a day filled with gratitude and for others it is filled with grief and longing. Father’s Day for some is a brutal reminder of the child that was never born, the dad that was never around, […]

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Neurofeedback Therapy in Haiti

June 21, 2017

By Rob Fitzpatrick This spring, I had an opportunity to travel to Jacmel, Haiti as a part of The Refuge Center’s partnership with the Hands and Feet Project to work one on one with children living in their program. I had previously travelled with the program to work with American staff and the house mothers, […]

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The Strengths of Theraplay®

June 8, 2017

Theraplay® is heavily informed by John Bowlby’s attachment theory. One of Bowlby’s foundational ideas was the concept of internal working models. In a nutshell, a child’s experiences with their primary caregivers in the early years of life provide a template for interpreting and understanding their world. Sensitive and responsive caregiving (along with playful interactions) teach […]

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Talking with Teens about Relationships

June 1, 2017

Whether a parent or an adolescent, the teenage years are hard, and arguably getting harder for every generation. Thanks to social media, the internet, and smartphones, teens and their parents are more accessible than ever to the outside world, and unfortunately making us less accessible to each other. Despite the uncharted changing technological territory, the […]

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The Family that Creates Together, Stays Together

May 25, 2017

Over time, there has been much research stating the importance of parent-child relationships. Positive parent-child relationships have been shown to lead to happy, healthy, smart and confident children. With the hustle and bustle of life, it seems that families are having difficulty carving out time to spend together. In addition, when most families gather together […]

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A Simple Challenge

May 10, 2017

By Refuge Center Intern Corey Springer Recently I’ve noticed the topic of minimalism riding another wave of popularity in media. The concept of living simpler in an increasingly complex society is understandably attractive. Learning to live simpler means learning to filter out our lives’ clutter so we can focus on what truly matters. Dreaming of […]

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Big News About The Big Payback

May 4, 2017

Wow! We are excited to announce that we exceeded our Big Payback goal of $50,000 and raised $53,630 from 107 wonderful online and offline friends supporting over 1,700 session hours on our sliding scale! This is a 30.3% increase from The Big Payback 2016 and we had 84.5% more individuals “paying it back” this year- […]

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13 Reasons Why

April 24, 2017

A new Netflix original show related to suicide is drawing a lot of attention, some viewers seeing it as very positive while others are having a more negative reaction to the show and its content. The show is an adaptation of the book by the same name, written by Jay Asher. For parents, the first […]

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The Beauty in Humanity

April 4, 2017

Recently, I’ve had the conversation about the beauty in humanity with a couple of different people. It seems that as humans, we constantly live in shame of our humanity. We are always focused on the negative; always focused on the belief that we are not good enough. If we aren’t criticizing ourselves, we are criticizing […]

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When the Father Carries You

March 13, 2017

I’ve always resonated with the “life is a journey” metaphor. I love adventure, and there’s always more to explore in life. Once, I was in a serious conversation with someone about how far I’d come on my own life journey and where I felt I currently stood. Knowing faith’s important role in my life, he […]

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Packing Tips for the Journey Ahead

March 7, 2017

I don’t know about you, but my already full life seems to get a little fuller with each passing day. The thing is, I absolutely love what I’m doing, but the pace feels risky at times. You remember bike rides when you get to the top of the hill and look all the way down? […]

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