Healthy Shame. Is There Such a Thing?

October 17, 2017

If I were to grab some athletic shorts, throw on a jersey, lace up some shoes and go for it, would that seem crazy? I mean, it’s only 10 feet in the air, and I’m 6 feet tall. How could this end badly? Well, the truth is, it very well could end up badly. You […]

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Rippling

October 9, 2017

Rippling is the idea that that every person’s character or spirit, in some sense, exists endlessly through the impact we have on others through relationship.

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The Struggle Switch

September 25, 2017

Do you struggle with difficult, painful thoughts and feelings on a regular basis?  Do you try with all of your strength to get rid of or avoid them?  If so, you are definitely not alone! In his book, The Happiness Trap, Dr. Russ Harris explains a reason why we tend to struggle with painful thoughts, feelings, memories, etc.  His explanation […]

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Personal Board of Directors

September 7, 2017

I had the great fortune a few years ago to attend multiple Women in Business luncheons. Each of these talks helped me in many ways, but I’ve found one talk to be particularly beneficial to myself and my clients. The talk was given by Agenia Clark, current CEO and president of Girl Scouts of Middle […]

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Practical Discipline

August 23, 2017

In his book Have A New Kid By Friday: How to Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior, & Character in 5 Days, Dr. Kevin Leman talks about the ABCs of discipline: attitude, behavior, and character (Leman, 2012). The surprising twist is that Leman is not just talking about the ABCs of children, but even more importantly, […]

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Mindfulness Interrupted

August 7, 2017

I’ve been thinking about mindfulness a lot lately.  It sounds like such a good idea!  You know, being fully present in this very moment.  And yet, I struggle with the same problem many people do: my mind is all over the place…. except right HERE, right NOW. I was recently online reading about mindfulness on […]

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Emotionally Focused Therapy for Infidelity

July 11, 2017

Researchers have noted that in cases of infidelity, partners frequently use the language of trauma when describing their experience, communicating in life or death terms. Sexual betrayal in marriage is extremely destructive to the relationship. Not only does it create unimaginable pain for the betrayed spouse, but it also tears at the very bond that […]

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Brainspotting

June 28, 2017

“So, you want me to just keep looking at the stick and see what comes up?” That is the question I usually get in my first brainspotting session with clients. It’s an understandable question. It seems too simple- looking at the end of a pointer will help resolve years of trauma or negative feeling? My […]

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Cracks in our Surfaces

June 22, 2017

I write this with Father’s Day on my heart last weekend, and the realization that for some this is a day filled with gratitude and for others it is filled with grief and longing. Father’s Day for some is a brutal reminder of the child that was never born, the dad that was never around, […]

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Neurofeedback Therapy in Haiti

June 21, 2017

By Rob Fitzpatrick This spring, I had an opportunity to travel to Jacmel, Haiti as a part of The Refuge Center’s partnership with the Hands and Feet Project to work one on one with children living in their program. I had previously travelled with the program to work with American staff and the house mothers, […]

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The Strengths of Theraplay®

June 8, 2017

Theraplay® is heavily informed by John Bowlby’s attachment theory. One of Bowlby’s foundational ideas was the concept of internal working models. In a nutshell, a child’s experiences with their primary caregivers in the early years of life provide a template for interpreting and understanding their world. Sensitive and responsive caregiving (along with playful interactions) teach […]

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Talking with Teens about Relationships

June 1, 2017

Whether a parent or an adolescent, the teenage years are hard, and arguably getting harder for every generation. Thanks to social media, the internet, and smartphones, teens and their parents are more accessible than ever to the outside world, and unfortunately making us less accessible to each other. Despite the uncharted changing technological territory, the […]

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The Family that Creates Together, Stays Together

May 25, 2017

Over time, there has been much research stating the importance of parent-child relationships. Positive parent-child relationships have been shown to lead to happy, healthy, smart and confident children. With the hustle and bustle of life, it seems that families are having difficulty carving out time to spend together. In addition, when most families gather together […]

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