November 20, 2017

In light of the holiday we just celebrated, I felt it prudent to discuss a feeling that every living human being deals with on a regular basis: fear. There has been this pervasive idea in my story growing up, both from my personal experiences and society at large, that says if I feel fear, and […]

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Creating a Life Worth Living

November 6, 2017

What do I do when I realize that I am not necessarily living the values I hold for myself in a given life domain? How to I create a life worth living?

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Overcoming Betrayal

October 24, 2017

In her book, “After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful,” Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D. and board certified clinical psychologist from Westport, Connecticut, addresses the seemingly impossible, emotionally taxing task of rebuilding relationship following the discovery of an affair. Dr. Spring devotes space towards explaining feelings and responses […]

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Healthy Shame. Is There Such a Thing?

October 17, 2017

If I were to grab some athletic shorts, throw on a jersey, lace up some shoes and go for it, would that seem crazy? I mean, it’s only 10 feet in the air, and I’m 6 feet tall. How could this end badly? Well, the truth is, it very well could end up badly. You […]

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October 9, 2017

Rippling is the idea that that every person’s character or spirit, in some sense, exists endlessly through the impact we have on others through relationship.

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The Struggle Switch

September 25, 2017

Do you struggle with difficult, painful thoughts and feelings on a regular basis?  Do you try with all of your strength to get rid of or avoid them?  If so, you are definitely not alone! In his book, The Happiness Trap, Dr. Russ Harris explains a reason why we tend to struggle with painful thoughts, feelings, memories, etc.  His explanation […]

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Personal Board of Directors

September 7, 2017

I had the great fortune a few years ago to attend multiple Women in Business luncheons. Each of these talks helped me in many ways, but I’ve found one talk to be particularly beneficial to myself and my clients. The talk was given by Agenia Clark, current CEO and president of Girl Scouts of Middle […]

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Practical Discipline

August 23, 2017

In his book Have A New Kid By Friday: How to Change Your Child’s Attitude, Behavior, & Character in 5 Days, Dr. Kevin Leman talks about the ABCs of discipline: attitude, behavior, and character (Leman, 2012). The surprising twist is that Leman is not just talking about the ABCs of children, but even more importantly, […]

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Mindfulness Interrupted

August 7, 2017

I’ve been thinking about mindfulness a lot lately.  It sounds like such a good idea!  You know, being fully present in this very moment.  And yet, I struggle with the same problem many people do: my mind is all over the place…. except right HERE, right NOW. I was recently online reading about mindfulness on […]

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Emotionally Focused Therapy for Infidelity

July 11, 2017

Researchers have noted that in cases of infidelity, partners frequently use the language of trauma when describing their experience, communicating in life or death terms. Sexual betrayal in marriage is extremely destructive to the relationship. Not only does it create unimaginable pain for the betrayed spouse, but it also tears at the very bond that […]

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June 28, 2017

“So, you want me to just keep looking at the stick and see what comes up?” That is the question I usually get in my first brainspotting session with clients. It’s an understandable question. It seems too simple- looking at the end of a pointer will help resolve years of trauma or negative feeling? My […]

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Cracks in our Surfaces

June 22, 2017

I write this with Father’s Day on my heart last weekend, and the realization that for some this is a day filled with gratitude and for others it is filled with grief and longing. Father’s Day for some is a brutal reminder of the child that was never born, the dad that was never around, […]

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Neurofeedback Therapy in Haiti

June 21, 2017

By Rob Fitzpatrick This spring, I had an opportunity to travel to Jacmel, Haiti as a part of The Refuge Center’s partnership with the Hands and Feet Project to work one on one with children living in their program. I had previously travelled with the program to work with American staff and the house mothers, […]

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